Changes

They say everything happens for a reason. But for someone like me, I do not like waiting to see the reason. Are you guilty of this too?
So for those who know me personally know I work 2 jobs. I did not really need to work two jobs as my full time job gets me by. But I share custody with Seth's dad and there a couple of days a week in which I do not have him. Before Jeffrey moved across country and married me I was so depressed without Seth on those days. So I kept asking my dad who was one of the managers at our local Uno's if he needed a host or something on those random days I did not have Seth. After a while he said to apply and I interviewed with the main manager. I was hired on the spot and thrilled. I already knew a bunch of the servers since we would eat there a lot and visit my dad. I would always joke that it took me to get paid to spend time with my dad as you have long unpredictable hours when working in the restaurant business.

I loved working at Uno. I had regulars who I knew their names and jobs and their favorite servers etc.  My son loved Uno and all of the wonderful things that happened there. Whether it was kids nights, or Christmas celebrations.  I will miss the amazing team I had the honor of working with.  They always had me laughing and smiling despite tense moments of long waits and kitchen mishaps.
I love all of my coworkers and they helped this single mom transition to a newlywed trying to manage it all. 

Look for the helpers

If you are in the USA or maybe just go onto CNN etc you will see massive shootings. The latest being yesterday in Florida at a high school. Who am I to write on such a topic? I just want to offer those that read some hope. I have always loved the quote by Mister Rogers himself: “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” 


Teachers shielded students to protect them. Risking their own lives to save others. The feelings and thoughts they went thought I can not speak of. But always look for the helpers. There are still good people in the world. 
If you see something to be off.. SAY SOMETHING. It can possibly save lives and prevent these horrible acts of violence. 
I have been watching a lot of the news coverage and a teacher said the school had just prepared for a drill like this. This makes me have chills. Schools should not have to think of this terrible act occurring at their school. 

Many think of Valentine's Day as a made up holiday. But to have a massacre happen like yesterday in Florida, I think we need to just celebrate love even more. Tell everyone you love them. 
Be kind. Follow Jesus as an example. Treat others the way you want to be treated. 


Thank you all for reading my blog and I pray for those who were involved yesterday. I pray for them for when they go back to school. I pray for the educators who do not think they did enough or had to hide kids in closets to protect them. 

This week

In case anyone wants to know what happened in my ward and our messages we shared. 

Good Morning Sisters!!

Hope everyone enjoyed the rest of their Sabbath day. I know the Relief Society Planning Committee has been hard at work trying to come up with fun ideas of events etc.

So again if you have a calling that kept you out of RS or sick ..here is what you missed.

I don’t usually highlight who has the friendship basket but Stacy  had it this past week and she added in a magnet that had a wonderful quote that some sisters asked me to share here. “In life we do things. Some we wish we had never done. Some we wish we could replay a million times in our heads. But they all make us who we are, and in the end they shape every detail about us. If we were to reverse any of them we wouldn’t be the person we are. So just live, make mistakes, have wonderful memories. But never ever second guess who you are, where you have been and most importantly where it is you’re going.”-unknown.  Powerful right?!

So let us dive in. Sister S was the teacher this week and she had Erin’s daughters sing a verse of a song. It was beautiful and if someone still has the slip please share. (Seth got to mine)

We then listened to a talk by now President Russell M Nelson. https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865690015/President-Russell-M-Nelson-The-Book-of-Mormon-What-Would-Your-Life-be-Like-Without-it.html  I believe this is the direct link as the ending line of if you have diamonds vs rubies which one is a greater value to you?

Do you ever stop to think what your life would be like without the Book of Mormon?

What would you not know? What would you not have? These are the questions Sister S had us focus on for the discussion.

Sisters all around the room shared. Here are some highlights: “We have fulfillment in our lives.”

“In some ways we have the answers.”

“Everything just makes sense here.”

“There is no uncertainty anymore”

“The lessons on the atonement help so much. I understand the overall magnitude.”

“I’ve gotten to know Jesus Christ more. It is now personal. I know he knows me.”

“The temple! I did not know what I was missing.”

I shared that for me it was family. This was huge to me as I discovered family on my biological father’s side whom I have never known with family history and research, and the work for the dead we do.

“it feels like home”

“when first getting taught I thought it was weird. But I think it is really true that a young man just by here asked a question.”

“ I asked the elders how this will help me personally. People go through a lot but I needed to know for me how it would help me. Then the elders opened up to different scriptures that were personally helpful to me and what I was going through.”

“Your personal testimony works best”

Finally we finished with watching President Russell M Nelson talk again. He stated that when thinking of the Book of Mormon the word power comes to mind.  We are to study and pray every day. You will get your personal questions answered.  And finally we need to feel it so deeply we don’t want to live even one day without it.

Reacting to things

This weeks lesson if you attended my church or if you just need a reminder in general was more about how we react to things. Learning that we chose how to react. I honestly was not sure I was going to blog this week about the lesson. But seeing a post on my biological father's wifes social media made me almost quick to react. 

It was funny to me because they always complain how they are left out of things. Which is funny because they never call me or pay attention to me or my son etc. Now their post is about the grandparents not calling as much etc. See my uncle died in July and the family has not been the same. He was the glue that seemed to hold it all together. I wanted to post this very angry comment on the picture but I am choosing to not react that way. Instead my reaction is to maybe warn others to take that extra minute and think of what they are feeling, and why they posted that.  We can chose to be the better person
and try to make it so it does not affect our days as much.
I know that this is a reaction and maybe it will be taken the wrong way. But we all could learn to react differently.