You may be wondering why you are reading this with a title like that. This is for anyone that thought marriage would be perfect and rainbows. It is not. It is work. Hard work. You need to still date when married. But how do you do that with children, jobs, church duties and still trying to maintain friendships with others as well? Well I do not have the answer as I am on my second marriage and my poor husband now married someone with a child. So dates are even few and far between. Time together is harder to get just the two of us. We each have big callings in the church, and I am a firefighter as well. So when the tones drop I need to leave and help my community.
However the support of one another is what pushes us through. Its those heart to hearts as we lay down for the night that rekindle the fire. It keeps the love alive.
I am blessed to have my husband in my life. So if you are reading this hope it helps add a log to the fire of our love. Sorry for the cheesy fire analogies, guess it happens with me being a firefighter. Also this Sundays lesson during Relief Society we talked about the 2018 General Conference talk by Elder Gong. Where he is invited to paint watercolor with his friend. It was a campfire scene and that talk has been on my heart.
The talk had his friend setting him up for success when it came to learning how to paint watercolor. Setting up for a successful marriage is crucial too. Realizing in our faith that we truly believe in eternal marriage is important. I often have anxiety and with me being divorced I always feel like I could be left again. So I build the wall. I put up the barricade and try to make it so it will not hurt me. However it is honestly hurting the person I love most. So I am going to the temple Friday. To pray and be better. To start listening to the spirit rather then the adversary. I need to learn to listen to the positive.
This is why our prophet has focused on church at home so much. At least in my eyes. We are the keeper's of our homes and our hearts.So I am trying to do better. Not only for myself but to my husband who deserves the very best in the world.
